11 Places Younger Women Go to Meet Older Men

longtermrelationshipHere are places guys who are older can go that will not have that type of vibe to them. Here’s a short list of great places where younger women go where they can expect to “bump” into older men.

Art Galleries/Openings

Because older men appreciate the finer things in life.

Concerts

Even concerts of “older” acts–you’d be surprised!

High-End Lounges

Women know that older men typically aren’t big fans of loud clubs. High-end lounges offer a more quiet place where she might “run into” a refined older man at the bar.

Happy Hours at trendy bars

Same as above.

Trendy Restaurants that have a bar area

Same idea as above, but with the added benefit of excellent food (presumably).

Yoga

Her reasoning is that older guys won’t be gym rats/meatheads, and want to stay in shape “the right way.”

Fund Raisers

They show that a guy is passionate about a cause and willing to dedicate time and resources to it. Also shows that you think about something outside of yourself.

Benefits for a political cause

Same as above.

Open Mic Night

She knows that you’re up for fun live entertainment, and like to laugh.

Comedy Clubs

Same as above.

Museums

She’s looking for a guy with some culture and refinement, who can appreciate history. Who better than an older guy?!

These types of places have a strong socializing aspect to them and are the types of places where younger men won’t frequent, so it’s only logical that if she goes there the demographic will be mostly young to older women mixed with older men.

I would suggest visiting these places regularly and see for yourself, but I would also suggest that you get the idea out of your head that you need to go somewhere specifically to meet women who are looking for older men!

Like I said, I’m an older guy and meet young women everywhere. Women of all ages (andespecially when they’re young) love older men.

Stop being ashamed of your age. Being an older man is a gift from God. We have the world at our fingertips. Rejoice in your age and use your age to your advantage. It’s really one of your best assets, whether you know it or not!

The Truth About Older Men Love Dating Younger Women

This montwomenoldermenh Austin-based profressional matchamker and relationship expert Julia McCurley weighs in on what we all see among the wealthy: younger women attracted to older men. Long a staple in many cultures, McCurley examines the basis of how it really works.

The first thought that comes to many women’s minds when they think of older men dating younger women is that men might only be interested in eye candy and in perpetuating the illusion of their own youth. For some men, this may be true, yet I have found that the attraction is a little more complicated than that.

Older men love dating younger women because of three primary reasons.

1. Younger women may be more sexually attractive to them.

2, Younger women help older men feel more youthful.

3. Younger women idolize older men and do not call them on their issues like an older woman might.

These are all the stereotypical reasons that come to mind to some people think older men love to date younger woman. According to famed psycholigist Abraham Maslow, there are five basic human needs experienced to varying degrees by all of us. However, some of us have higher needs than others genetically at different developmental stages in our lives. Here is some food for thought in regards to that.

First is the survival need, which encompasses the need to stay alive with food, clothing and shelter but it also includes the psychological needs to feel safe and secure. Younger women are often looking for a sense of security that an older man can provide. Older men love dating younger women because the level of security they can offer a younger woman satisfies her in ways it might not an older partner he might seek.

The next need is connection. We all have a need to be connected to other people. Some of us need that more than others. This is a need that is different for men and women at different stages in their lives. Young adult women typically have a larger need for connection. While they will create careers, their main focus is their relationship and creating a family. Young adult men, on the other hand, are most focused on the need for significance. They have relationships and start families but their primary focus is figuring out a way to make it in the world. In young adult relationships, these needs are often in conflict, as the woman wants more intimacy and quality time and the younger man is instead focused on work and building his career.

The next need is freedom. People with high freedom needs do best in relationships with someone else who also possesses a high freedom need. Another reason older men love dating youger women is because even though she is focused on connection, she might be willing to allow an older man freedom in exchange for the security and the attention he gives her when they are together. This ofte creates a win/win arrangement for both.

The fourth need is fun. A younger woman still has a keen sense of energetic fun whereas an older woman may have transitioned into meeting her fun need with her children or having a quieter kind of fun. This younger, energetic kind of fun is attractive to an older man who may be feeling his mortality and seeking a bit more fun than he’s had in his past relationships.

Older men date younger women for many reasons. Some of the relationships last, some don’t. Here’s why.

1. Fantasy love fades. Usually within a year. At first, the older man is in love with her looks and youthful spirit. Eventually, he realizes all they have in common is a roof over their heads, and he’ll be off to look for a relationship with substance he might not thought he found with a younger woman.

2. Older men may say they feel younger, but dating younger women won’t make them younger. No matter how hard older men try to make the wrinkles disappear, the darn things keep showing up in the mirror.

3. Older men and younger women utilize each other, similar to a business arrangement. He has money, assets, power, and security; she has youth and beauty. If the money runs out, or someone richer comes along, she may break the lease, leaving him with an empty wallet and his arms around a tree trying to survive the storm the relationship may have created.

4. OK, maybe she’s not using him. Perhaps she loves him because he’s more patient, laid back, mature, gentle, and understanding than men her age. Still, she’s likely considered his financial attribute at some point. Rarely do I see younger women with destitute older men. Do you?

What matters most to all people is love, no matter what the age or circumstance. With more love in your life, there will be more life in your love.