Sugar Baby Gift Etiquette: Get Her Gifts That Look Expensive & Exotic On A Shoestring Budget

0-oo2NbYKq0m6QMkgqNow we’re into the part that makes a lot of men leery of trying to meet younger women. The parts about meeting and impressing a girl are all well and good, but what do you do when it comes to actually giving the kinds of gifts that sugar babies will expect? After all, you did meet her on a sugar daddie dating website!

We’ve got you covered.

It is totally possible to give a nice gift that looks excellent, exotic, and hard to find to your sugar baby. The trick is remembering that the girls you’re meeting aren’t just there for the money—they’re coming for the experience, the lifestyle, the feeling of dating an older, successful, experienced, refined man exactly like you are.

You’re giving the experience—not the money.

With that in mind, it makes it a lot easier to get your sugar baby something that speaks of everything you want to convey about your life. Here’s how you go about getting her a gift.

Go to etsy.com.

If you don’t know etsy, it’s a site where people can sell their handmade crap. A lot of them do custom work.

Jewelry is always the best idea. This is true for buying things for sugar babies, and it doesn’t really matter what kind you get. You can get stuff for really cheap, usually under $10, that looks exotic and interesting.

It doesn’t have to look fancy.

Remember, it’s all about the attitude, and the lifestyle you’re selling. A collection of beads and shells and cheap stones is fine, as long as it doesn’t look mass-produced. Now, after you find the jewelry for probably about the same price as a good cup of coffee, here’s the important part.

Sell her a story.

Tell her that the jewelry was bought on a boating trip to a remote South Asian island. Bali is a nice suggestion. Anywhere in Indonesia or the Philippines will work.

She won’t see it as a piece of cheap jewelry. Girls have great imaginations. She’ll be thinking of how great it would be to go boating with this smart, rich, successful man, not about whether the piece of jewelry is any good. If it falls apart, you can just shrug. It’s not your fault it wasn’t well-made.

It’s best if you have a story ready before you give it to her. Don’t go overboard and say some kid gave it to you as a reward from saving him from drowning or anything. Stick to something believable, like that you were out boating all day and stopped at a little island and saw a local market.

The authenticity is key.

If you can sell this jewelry as a piece of your life, instead of just a piece of plastic and shells, you’ve got her right where you want her. She’ll be too busy thinking about the cool places you two can go, the life she could live, and the amazing things she’ll get to see and do to focus on exactly what kind of jewelry you gave her.

Some good choices include bracelets, necklaces, and earrings. To be adventurous, go for an anklet or toe rings. These seem a little more exotic and interesting to a girl that comes from a background without much culture or money

The Truth About Older Men Love Dating Younger Women

This montwomenoldermenh Austin-based profressional matchamker and relationship expert Julia McCurley weighs in on what we all see among the wealthy: younger women attracted to older men. Long a staple in many cultures, McCurley examines the basis of how it really works.

The first thought that comes to many women’s minds when they think of older men dating younger women is that men might only be interested in eye candy and in perpetuating the illusion of their own youth. For some men, this may be true, yet I have found that the attraction is a little more complicated than that.

Older men love dating younger women because of three primary reasons.

1. Younger women may be more sexually attractive to them.

2, Younger women help older men feel more youthful.

3. Younger women idolize older men and do not call them on their issues like an older woman might.

These are all the stereotypical reasons that come to mind to some people think older men love to date younger woman. According to famed psycholigist Abraham Maslow, there are five basic human needs experienced to varying degrees by all of us. However, some of us have higher needs than others genetically at different developmental stages in our lives. Here is some food for thought in regards to that.

First is the survival need, which encompasses the need to stay alive with food, clothing and shelter but it also includes the psychological needs to feel safe and secure. Younger women are often looking for a sense of security that an older man can provide. Older men love dating younger women because the level of security they can offer a younger woman satisfies her in ways it might not an older partner he might seek.

The next need is connection. We all have a need to be connected to other people. Some of us need that more than others. This is a need that is different for men and women at different stages in their lives. Young adult women typically have a larger need for connection. While they will create careers, their main focus is their relationship and creating a family. Young adult men, on the other hand, are most focused on the need for significance. They have relationships and start families but their primary focus is figuring out a way to make it in the world. In young adult relationships, these needs are often in conflict, as the woman wants more intimacy and quality time and the younger man is instead focused on work and building his career.

The next need is freedom. People with high freedom needs do best in relationships with someone else who also possesses a high freedom need. Another reason older men love dating youger women is because even though she is focused on connection, she might be willing to allow an older man freedom in exchange for the security and the attention he gives her when they are together. This ofte creates a win/win arrangement for both.

The fourth need is fun. A younger woman still has a keen sense of energetic fun whereas an older woman may have transitioned into meeting her fun need with her children or having a quieter kind of fun. This younger, energetic kind of fun is attractive to an older man who may be feeling his mortality and seeking a bit more fun than he’s had in his past relationships.

Older men date younger women for many reasons. Some of the relationships last, some don’t. Here’s why.

1. Fantasy love fades. Usually within a year. At first, the older man is in love with her looks and youthful spirit. Eventually, he realizes all they have in common is a roof over their heads, and he’ll be off to look for a relationship with substance he might not thought he found with a younger woman.

2. Older men may say they feel younger, but dating younger women won’t make them younger. No matter how hard older men try to make the wrinkles disappear, the darn things keep showing up in the mirror.

3. Older men and younger women utilize each other, similar to a business arrangement. He has money, assets, power, and security; she has youth and beauty. If the money runs out, or someone richer comes along, she may break the lease, leaving him with an empty wallet and his arms around a tree trying to survive the storm the relationship may have created.

4. OK, maybe she’s not using him. Perhaps she loves him because he’s more patient, laid back, mature, gentle, and understanding than men her age. Still, she’s likely considered his financial attribute at some point. Rarely do I see younger women with destitute older men. Do you?

What matters most to all people is love, no matter what the age or circumstance. With more love in your life, there will be more life in your love.