When setting up a meeting between an older man and a younger woman, it’s important to know where to take her. If you decide to meet somewhere uncool or sketchy, she’ll probably never show up—and if she does show, she’s not the kind of girl you want to meet anyway.
Where is the best place to take a sugar baby?
The best place to take a sugar baby is a hotel bar. Keep it local—don’t make her feel afraid by asking her to meet somewhere out of her comfort zone. If you can, make sure it’s a 4 or 5 star hotel. This is a nice way to bring a lot of ambiance to the meeting with very little effort.
This is also a good way of having a drink at a bar, which girls are used to, but taking it out of her expectations. Most girls in their 20s don’t get taken to fancy hotel bars very often. Immediately, this puts the playing field in your favor, because she’ll be nervous and excited to be there.
Remember who you’re competing against: frat guys who would rather chug beer and don’t know how to order a nice martini.
Have a drink before she gets there.
This will help to calm your nerves. It also makes it look like you’re a man who can hold his liquor, not a drunk like the guys she’s usually used to going out with on a Friday night.
Remember your competition.
The best these girls can usually do, their next option after you, is a BUM guy. These guys can maybe afford to buy her a Bud Light during happy hour, and you’re sitting in a fancy hotel bar stirring a fancy drink. Whatever you order, do it confidently, though you shouldn’t over-drink.
You can do this. Don’t be afraid, your competition is off playing beer pong and doing chest-bumps with some other frat dude over football. The girls you’re meeting are the ones who are sick of these idiots. They want to find a real man who’s as different from those guys as possible. Already you’re in the lead, because you’re a totally different kind of guy. She wants that. Don’t feel insecure about your age.
Your age is why she wants you.
Older guys who try to act young are just pathetic, and no girl wants to date them. An older guy who acts refined and experienced, on the other hand, is something that drives girls nuts. Be the experienced guy who knows a thing or two about the world, not the sad old fart.
She is WAY more nervous than you are.
The girl you are meeting is younger, less mature, and in way over her head and out of her league…and she knows it. This is your KEY ADVANTAGE. She is coming to the table knowing that all she has is her looks, so she’ll probably be very nervous.
Don’t fuck it up.
Be confident. LEAD her. The flow of the conversation is up to you—it’s all in your court to seal the deal.