Closing The Deal: From First Date To Sex QUICK

When done right this should be pretty easy.

The hardest part of the process when learning how to be a sugar daddy is setting up your profile properly to attract these young and hot women in their 20s who want to hook up with older, more experienced, established men – using online dating sites for just that purpose.

However, a lot of guys seem to think that getting a girl from a first date to first sex. If you’ve followed this guide, closing the deal should be pretty easy.

Of the three of us guys, we’ve had very few issues moving from the hotel bar to our places when we want to move from talking to sex. Girls on sugar daddy websites know what they’re signing up for, and they know what the guys they meet are looking for. You’re bringing the experience and charm to the table: they’re bringing the sex.

Once you realize that they’re coming to the bar with sex already in mind, approach the evening that way. Be confident. Never forget for a second that this is going to lead to her coming back to your place.

Don’t tell her you’re assuming sex.

Remember, the thing these girls are most afraid of is that the man is just using them for sex. What you want to do is act confident, self-assured. There’s no reason this can’t lead to sex on the first meeting if you like the girl and she’s as hot as her picture.

She’s more nervous about impressing you than you are about impressing her.

She has to impress you with her beauty and her willingness. If you don’t like what she’s offering, you have a hundred more choices on the same website where you found her—and she knows that already.

Don’t sell yourself short, and don’t assume she won’t be into going back to your place on the first date. Chances are, she will.

Have a story ready.

Is your apartment up to snuff with the kind of man who goes yachting on weekends? Yeah, ours either. Remember, you don’t actually have to be a millionaire to score with the girls on sugar daddy websites when you’re looking up how to be a sugar daddy.

The story we use is that we have two places in the city. She’s offering her beauty and youth, and you’re offering your lifestyle. You want this girl to be in love with your lifestyle, and think about how cool it would be to have two places in the city to live in.

Then, you should tell her that your main place in this city, the one you usually spend time in, has been occupied by guests. This again gives the impression that you’re a busy, important person who has dozens of contacts all making demands on your time. It also gives her the option to make it feel like she’s choosing to spend time with you and you alone.

Tell her that it’s fine, because your second place in the city has whatever cool collection or item you’re using as bait. If you’ve actually been boating or traveling or whatever, items and pictures from travel work great for this. Pets wok well, too. “Come and meet my dog” or fish or whatever is great—make her feel like she’s special by bringing her to the place you spend your time, the one you consider your home.

Another nice item to show off is a vintage collection of some kind, or a very special bottle of wine. She probably won’t know much about wine, so you can get away with making up some bullshit about a bottle if you know how to make it sound fancy.

First Meet-Up: Where Is The Best Place To Take Your Young Chick On A First Date

When setting up a meeting between an older man and a younger woman, it’s important to know where to take her. If you decide to meet somewhere uncool or sketchy, she’ll probably never show up—and if she does show, she’s not the kind of girl you want to meet anyway.

Where is the best place to take a sugar baby?

The best place to take a sugar baby is a hotel bar. Keep it local—don’t make her feel afraid by asking her to meet somewhere out of her comfort zone. If you can, make sure it’s a 4 or 5 star hotel. This is a nice way to bring a lot of ambiance to the meeting with very little effort.

This is also a good way of having a drink at a bar, which girls are used to, but taking it out of her expectations. Most girls in their 20s don’t get taken to fancy hotel bars very often. Immediately, this puts the playing field in your favor, because she’ll be nervous and excited to be there.

Remember who you’re competing against: frat guys who would rather chug beer and don’t know how to order a nice martini.

Have a drink before she gets there.

This will help to calm your nerves. It also makes it look like you’re a man who can hold his liquor, not a drunk like the guys she’s usually used to going out with on a Friday night.

Remember your competition.

The best these girls can usually do, their next option after you, is a BUM guy. These guys can maybe afford to buy her a Bud Light during happy hour, and you’re sitting in a fancy hotel bar stirring a fancy drink. Whatever you order, do it confidently, though you shouldn’t over-drink.

You can do this. Don’t be afraid, your competition is off playing beer pong and doing chest-bumps with some other frat dude over football. The girls you’re meeting are the ones who are sick of these idiots. They want to find a real man who’s as different from those guys as possible. Already you’re in the lead, because you’re a totally different kind of guy. She wants that. Don’t feel insecure about your age.

Your age is why she wants you.

Older guys who try to act young are just pathetic, and no girl wants to date them. An older guy who acts refined and experienced, on the other hand, is something that drives girls nuts. Be the experienced guy who knows a thing or two about the world, not the sad old fart.

She is WAY more nervous than you are.

The girl you are meeting is younger, less mature, and in way over her head and out of her league…and she knows it. This is your KEY ADVANTAGE. She is coming to the table knowing that all she has is her looks, so she’ll probably be very nervous.

Don’t fuck it up.

Be confident. LEAD her. The flow of the conversation is up to you—it’s all in your court to seal the deal.

3 Types of Women To Avoid On Sugar Daddy Sites

Just because there are a lot of great women to meet on sugar daddy sites doesn’t mean there aren’t some to avoid. You can totally meet hot women in their 20s that want to hook up with older guys. However, you have to learn how to filter out the losers first.

There are three types of women on sugar daddy websites that aren’t worth spending your time on.

Once you learn to filter those out and see only the genuine article of girls who want to have a relationship with an older, experienced, established man, your search for the perfect sugar baby to hook up with will go much more smoothly. You just need to learn to spot the ones that aren’t worth spending your time chasing.
First, there are the escorts.

These are pretty easy to spot, once you learn how. Any girl that looks way too perfect, has an airbrushed photo, and is really cagey about what she wants in a man is probably an escort. An escort will try to make every guy feel like he could be her type, when a real younger woman who’s looking to have an older man in her life will be more specific.

Obviously, any mention of up-front payment will identify these women for what they really are right away. Don’t waste time with hookers and escorts, when we can show you how to hook up with gorgeous women in their 20s for cheap or free!

The second type of woman on the dating websites to avoid is the true gold digger.

They have done this before. Unlike the escorts that want to make every man feel like he could be her type, the gold digger will have a very detailed list of what she wants in a man.

You don’t want these women. They want to get your money, hands down. Some of them have made a career out of going from established man to established man, reeling them in for long enough to get their money. You want to be the one with the demands and the power in the relationship. There’s no reason to hand that power over to a girl that only wants to get her hands on your wallet—and most of them wind up being more expensive than the escorts anyway.

Any time a girl on one of these sites starts making demands of you or listing her “requirements” up front, ignore her. There are a hell of a lot more girls looking for established, refined men in their lives than there are gold diggers. You’ll be able to find someone to fulfill your every fantasy way easier than these gold diggers will find a man to be their personalized bank account. Unless you want to see a million shopping trips on your credit card and never get laid, give this kind of girl a huge pass.

The third type of girl to avoid on sugar daddy sites is the kind that always wanders into a bar by mistake. Yes, even on these sites, you get the fatties and fuglies.

For some reason, these girls that couldn’t even land a blind drunk guy at a bar on Friday nights seem to think they can get a guy to pay to be her sugar daddy. There’s no reason to waste time on these girls.

If the girl you’re looking at isn’t drop-dead gorgeous, she’s not worth your time. There are plenty of other girls around that ARE drop-dead gorgeous, and with our guides to making your profile on sugar daddy sites, you’ll have them falling all over themselves to eat out of the palm of your hand in no time.

How To Describe Yourself To Attract Younger Women

You’ve already read up on how to create your online profile to attract sugar babies, and also the guide on how to make sure your profile picture works for you. The rest of your profile is just as important. This is essential for striking that balance between the nice guy and the jerk that we mentioned earlier.

Keep your tone consistent.

Women can tell immediately if you’re wishy-washy. They’ll think they can use that to get your money and get away. To avoid this, remember to stay confident when you’re writing. Reread everything you’ve written afterwards. If it sounds like a guy you would look up to, a guy whose life you want, that’s a good thing.

Be authoritative.

Don’t try to sugar-coat things on your sugar daddy dating site profile. Come right out and state the specific things you like in a girl. Don’t get too nitpicky (like insisting on the exact measurements or where she’s from), because you don’t want to risk the girl feeling like she’s just a “type.”

Be the prize.

The mechanical advantage of being a sugar daddy on these websites is huge. There are three women for every man on some of them, like sugardaddymeet.com. which means you can have your pick. Don’t sound desperate, because you don’t need to be. Have a confident tone, and act like the prize you are in this game. Women will be fighting over you.

Be very busy.

This is especially important for later on in the game, as well as right at first. One of the most important things for you to mention when describing yourself on your sugar daddy dating profile is that you’re a very busy man. This helps lend you the air of competency and refinement that is so important for an older man dating younger women. Anything that helps you seem more experienced and exotic is what we’re looking for.

Also important is that if you say upfront you’re very busy, the girl will know that she has to try and fit herself into your life and schedule, not the other way around.

Mention that you travel frequently for business. This says in no uncertain terms that you won’t have much time for a relationship, and the girl will feel that it’s in her best interests to get you while she can. This is basically the equivalent of playing somewhat hard to get—you’re open to meeting women, this tone of voice says, as long as they’re coming to offer something. You don’t need to meet women who are looking for someone to pay their way in their own life—you want to meet the ones who want to be part of a larger, more exciting relationship. Being busy and traveling will help filter out the worst girls from your lists of possibles.

It’s important to know how to talk about women on your dating profile for these sites. Even if everything else is right, if you don’t nail this aspect of your profile, you might as well not bother. Remember to keep your tone confident and authoritative. Mention that you love women, and that you love spending time with them. You love getting to know great women, but your busy schedule and exciting life makes it difficult to meet them as often as you’d like.

Remember the age you’re dealing with.

Don’t just say that you like meeting great women. Also mention that you like meeting girls and helping them to become great women. Let them think about what they could turn into with your guidance, running around the world and living a fabulous, refined life on your arm. This is the image you want to project on your sugar daddy dating profile, and it is absolutely essential when you’re an older man dating younger women.

Sugar Baby Gift Etiquette: Get Her Gifts That Look Expensive & Exotic On A Shoestring Budget

0-oo2NbYKq0m6QMkgqNow we’re into the part that makes a lot of men leery of trying to meet younger women. The parts about meeting and impressing a girl are all well and good, but what do you do when it comes to actually giving the kinds of gifts that sugar babies will expect? After all, you did meet her on a sugar daddie dating website!

We’ve got you covered.

It is totally possible to give a nice gift that looks excellent, exotic, and hard to find to your sugar baby. The trick is remembering that the girls you’re meeting aren’t just there for the money—they’re coming for the experience, the lifestyle, the feeling of dating an older, successful, experienced, refined man exactly like you are.

You’re giving the experience—not the money.

With that in mind, it makes it a lot easier to get your sugar baby something that speaks of everything you want to convey about your life. Here’s how you go about getting her a gift.

Go to etsy.com.

If you don’t know etsy, it’s a site where people can sell their handmade crap. A lot of them do custom work.

Jewelry is always the best idea. This is true for buying things for sugar babies, and it doesn’t really matter what kind you get. You can get stuff for really cheap, usually under $10, that looks exotic and interesting.

It doesn’t have to look fancy.

Remember, it’s all about the attitude, and the lifestyle you’re selling. A collection of beads and shells and cheap stones is fine, as long as it doesn’t look mass-produced. Now, after you find the jewelry for probably about the same price as a good cup of coffee, here’s the important part.

Sell her a story.

Tell her that the jewelry was bought on a boating trip to a remote South Asian island. Bali is a nice suggestion. Anywhere in Indonesia or the Philippines will work.

She won’t see it as a piece of cheap jewelry. Girls have great imaginations. She’ll be thinking of how great it would be to go boating with this smart, rich, successful man, not about whether the piece of jewelry is any good. If it falls apart, you can just shrug. It’s not your fault it wasn’t well-made.

It’s best if you have a story ready before you give it to her. Don’t go overboard and say some kid gave it to you as a reward from saving him from drowning or anything. Stick to something believable, like that you were out boating all day and stopped at a little island and saw a local market.

The authenticity is key.

If you can sell this jewelry as a piece of your life, instead of just a piece of plastic and shells, you’ve got her right where you want her. She’ll be too busy thinking about the cool places you two can go, the life she could live, and the amazing things she’ll get to see and do to focus on exactly what kind of jewelry you gave her.

Some good choices include bracelets, necklaces, and earrings. To be adventurous, go for an anklet or toe rings. These seem a little more exotic and interesting to a girl that comes from a background without much culture or money

The Truth About Older Men Love Dating Younger Women

This montwomenoldermenh Austin-based profressional matchamker and relationship expert Julia McCurley weighs in on what we all see among the wealthy: younger women attracted to older men. Long a staple in many cultures, McCurley examines the basis of how it really works.

The first thought that comes to many women’s minds when they think of older men dating younger women is that men might only be interested in eye candy and in perpetuating the illusion of their own youth. For some men, this may be true, yet I have found that the attraction is a little more complicated than that.

Older men love dating younger women because of three primary reasons.

1. Younger women may be more sexually attractive to them.

2, Younger women help older men feel more youthful.

3. Younger women idolize older men and do not call them on their issues like an older woman might.

These are all the stereotypical reasons that come to mind to some people think older men love to date younger woman. According to famed psycholigist Abraham Maslow, there are five basic human needs experienced to varying degrees by all of us. However, some of us have higher needs than others genetically at different developmental stages in our lives. Here is some food for thought in regards to that.

First is the survival need, which encompasses the need to stay alive with food, clothing and shelter but it also includes the psychological needs to feel safe and secure. Younger women are often looking for a sense of security that an older man can provide. Older men love dating younger women because the level of security they can offer a younger woman satisfies her in ways it might not an older partner he might seek.

The next need is connection. We all have a need to be connected to other people. Some of us need that more than others. This is a need that is different for men and women at different stages in their lives. Young adult women typically have a larger need for connection. While they will create careers, their main focus is their relationship and creating a family. Young adult men, on the other hand, are most focused on the need for significance. They have relationships and start families but their primary focus is figuring out a way to make it in the world. In young adult relationships, these needs are often in conflict, as the woman wants more intimacy and quality time and the younger man is instead focused on work and building his career.

The next need is freedom. People with high freedom needs do best in relationships with someone else who also possesses a high freedom need. Another reason older men love dating youger women is because even though she is focused on connection, she might be willing to allow an older man freedom in exchange for the security and the attention he gives her when they are together. This ofte creates a win/win arrangement for both.

The fourth need is fun. A younger woman still has a keen sense of energetic fun whereas an older woman may have transitioned into meeting her fun need with her children or having a quieter kind of fun. This younger, energetic kind of fun is attractive to an older man who may be feeling his mortality and seeking a bit more fun than he’s had in his past relationships.

Older men date younger women for many reasons. Some of the relationships last, some don’t. Here’s why.

1. Fantasy love fades. Usually within a year. At first, the older man is in love with her looks and youthful spirit. Eventually, he realizes all they have in common is a roof over their heads, and he’ll be off to look for a relationship with substance he might not thought he found with a younger woman.

2. Older men may say they feel younger, but dating younger women won’t make them younger. No matter how hard older men try to make the wrinkles disappear, the darn things keep showing up in the mirror.

3. Older men and younger women utilize each other, similar to a business arrangement. He has money, assets, power, and security; she has youth and beauty. If the money runs out, or someone richer comes along, she may break the lease, leaving him with an empty wallet and his arms around a tree trying to survive the storm the relationship may have created.

4. OK, maybe she’s not using him. Perhaps she loves him because he’s more patient, laid back, mature, gentle, and understanding than men her age. Still, she’s likely considered his financial attribute at some point. Rarely do I see younger women with destitute older men. Do you?

What matters most to all people is love, no matter what the age or circumstance. With more love in your life, there will be more life in your love.

Why some women prefer Older Men for Dating or Marriage

8287570_f260_副本There are many celebrity married couples where the man is old enough to be the father of the woman. Whether it is younger woman dating older man, older women dating younger men or women getting attracted to already married men, society does not look kindly at the woman in such relationships. Those women are often branded as gold diggers, cougars or the other woman whereas the man in the relationship would be called a ‘stud’ or ‘hero’. While I am not supportive of those ladies who ruin the homes of other woman or those men who leave their wives for younger women, I would give the benefit of doubt for those single women in the other categories that they may have been genuinely in love.

Reasons Why some women prefer Older Men for Dating or Marriage

There may be many reasons why a younger woman may prefer to choose an older man. Some of them can be because

  • They may be more matured and responsible.
  • Older men mostly have established Careers or Business which gives the financial stability and comforts a lady desire.
  • Older men tend to be more caring and may pamper her more and also be an authority figure in her life who takes change of things better.
  • They are more reliable and disciplined compared to their young counterparts.
  • They also seem to be more devoted to their partners and normally do not run around flirting or sleeping around with several women.
  • They are more sexually experienced and know to please their partner.
  • They are also knowledgeable because of their own experiences about what makes a relationship work and do not commit the mistakes younger men does.
  • An Older Man may not possess the energy of his younger counterpart and thereby need not be pleased sexually on a daily basis which most woman consider as a positive thing.
  • He also may not want children from you as he might already have some which is definitely a plus for a career oriented woman.
  • He is more knowledgeable because of his age and because of this wisdom he can teach her and make her feel more secure and confident.

If it is not his Qualities which make a younger woman drawn to him then may beshe is genuinely in love with him. And love is blind, isn’t it? If it is not love that has attracted her to him then may be she is a Gold Digger who is after his money. What do you think?

10 Advantages Of Dating Older Men

screen-shot-2015-01-11-at-1-02-34-pmYoung women often get tired of the let down that comes from dating men their age. There are too many fleeting, career-minded gents who are simply looking to have a little fun until they are ready to have a genuine relationship. Although society generally accepts the younger woman/older man duo, these relationships can be taboo. But what do we do when men our age are constantly letting us down? If you’re tired of waiting around for a “good guy,” you might want to explore another age group: the older man. Here are 10 things you can expect from these ripe gents:

He knows he is

You will know who he is and what he wants right from the get go. He knows what he likes and doesn’t like, but he is open minded enough to go with the flow. His ease and confidence will be a breath of fresh air.

He doesn’t mind the bush

Goodbye shaving, waxing and plucking. Older men grew up in a different generation when the bush was sexy. He’ll go down on you without question. You’ll feel more like a “natural woman” which will be liberating and free. He appreciates your girl parts just the way they are.

He is financially secure

Older men are financially secure. Even if they are not rich, they know where there money is, and this won’t be an issue. You won’t have to worry about contributing to the bill even on the 5th date. If you choose to, it’s because YOU CHOOSE TO out of fairness and equality, not because his courtship grace period is over.

You will never hear, “I have to focus on my career right now”

The older man is settled. He has made a career in this field or the other. He is free to focus on you, his interests and desires and, eventually, your mutual plans. How liberating would it be to be with a man who can focus on the relationship irrespective of whatever else is going on in his life?
If you are indecisive, he’ll choose (and it’ll be great)

Older men have been around the block. They know great places to eat, drink and socialize. No more walking around the East Village for an hour trying to figure out where to sit down for a good conversation.

Sex will be like making love each time

No more questioning whether or not he’ll hold your hand or introduce you to his friends. Sex will be intimate. He will kiss you, look you in the eyes when he’s inside you and tell you how beautiful you are. He will know how to touch you so that you enjoy sex just as much as he does. He will appreciate each time he gets to sleep with you because he looks at it as an experience, not an adventure.

He appreciates your depth

Older men genuinely enjoy good conversation. It is not an arbitrary dating ritual. He wants to hear about your career, ideas and adventures. It turns him on just as much as your physical appearance. So speak up on these dates!

He appreciates your youth

Confident older men want to keep in the now. They want to surround themselves with vibrant people because it keeps them youthful. When people approach middle age, it is easy to coast through life and be comfortable with what they’ve built for themselves. If a man is dating a younger woman, chances are he is looking to maintain his youth. You keep them feeling alive and inspired which, in return, makes you feel deeply desired.

He knows how to handle his family

It can be tricky introducing your significant other to the family for the first time especially if you’ve only done it once or twice before. Older men are well aware of their family’s dynamics, and he knows how to navigate through landmines and awkwardness when a new spouse is introduced. You won’t feel the pressure because he’ll be like a magician, handling the tough nuances without you even knowing he’s doing it.
He will show you places and things you never thought existed

With age comes experience. This is no secret. If you have an adventurous spirit and you’re curious about the world, let him show you the ropes. You may find yourself in a country you didn’t even know was on the map or in a workman’s shop that makes customary doorknobs for country homes. The older man doesn’t just know the streets of your city; he knows the back alleys as well. Let him show you the world.

If you find yourself uninspired by the oh-so familiar dating dynamics of your age group, try an older gent. This may not be the guy you see yourself marrying and having kids with, but it’ll sure be a low-risk adventure that you’ll never forget. TC mark

5 Considerations for older men younger women dating

timthumbA middle-aged man dating a much younger woman has long been thought of in American culture as a classic sign of midlife crisis. In some circles, dating a younger woman is a status symbol. Men aren’t the only ones who date younger people, though, and the archetype of the “cougar”—an older woman dating a younger man—is rapidly becoming a part of the public consciousness. Same-sex couples sometimes feature a significant age gap as well.

Although comedians joke about these relationships, a significant age difference doesn’t make a relationship any less real or meaningful, though it may create some challenges that don’t exist when romantic partners are close in age. Navigating the social ramifications of your relationship while struggling with generation gaps can be tough, but a significant age difference can give you the chance to consider new perspectives and appreciate the offerings of a different generation.

Know When the Difference Is Too Large
Love can be fickle, and we don’t always fall for the right people. Sometimes a significant age gap makes a relationship impossible. No matter how real your feelings are, getting involved with someone under the age of 18 can lead to serious legal trouble.

Even if you’re legally in the clear, a large age difference can undermine the long-term viability of your relationship. If you want to have children, you’ll have to consider whether fertility will be an issue and whether you or your partner will be around long enough to help raise your kids. Age differences can also mean significant differences in lifestyle. If you have an established career but your partner is still living with his or her parents, you could be in for a rocky ride.

Understand Your Reasons
Before you begin a relationship with someone much younger or older than you, it’s important to make a careful assessment of your motivations. Love knows no age, but if you date only people who are members of a different generation, it might reveal something about your approach to relationships. While people who date only people much younger or older than them owe no one an explanation, it may be helpful to consider underlying reasoning. Some who date only much older people may be seeking a parental figure more than a romantic partner. They may be insecure about finances and thus want to be with someone established in his or her career. If you have a history of dating people who are significantly younger than you, maybe you like feeling like your partner admires your experience, or perhaps you’re just not physically attracted to other people your age. A significant age difference doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong, but a long-standing pattern is always worth examining.

Be Prepared to Handle Generational Differences
No matter how understanding you are, it’s likely that you’re going to bump up against some generational differences. You might have different political views, find each other’s music obnoxious, or have no understanding of historical events that profoundly influenced your partner’s life. Bridge this difference by probing deeper and making a concerted effort to understand your partner’s viewpoint. A big age difference provides you with valuable opportunities to learn about alternative perspectives and experiences.

Know How to Handle Criticism
The odds are good that some people are going to disagree with your choices in romantic partners, no matter how perfect your relationship is. With close friends and family, this may mean making an effort to explain why you’re in love with the person and not with his or her age. But be prepared for snide, inconsiderate remarks. Getting into constant arguments about your partner’s age is no way to live, so plan a simple—and ideally polite—response that shuts down further discussions of your partner’s age.

Don’t Harp on Age Differences
Although age differences can create some challenges in your relationship, focusing too much on age can backfire. While you need to be understanding of generational differences, attributing every disagreement to your partner’s age can leave you both feeling self-conscious and misunderstood. If you frequently tell your partner his or her age doesn’t matter, your partner might end up feeling like age is a significant issue, or even that you’re in the relationship specifically because of the age difference. Don’t let age dominate your relationship, and address it only when it is truly relevant.